For the last few years at Achieve we've been practicing The 4 Part Apology - a communication tool that allows us to resolve conflicts in a thoughtful way instead of in anger or defense. We talk about this concept in class and in Morning Assembly. Here the main idea:
- Apologize: Remorsefully saying "I'm sorry for _____" and name the action. "I'm sorry for shoving you."
- Admission:Acknowledging the action AND the negative impact it had. "This was wrong because I could've hurt you. I didn't talk to you about why I was upset."
- Recommit:Name what you will do in the future. "In the future I will talk to you about what bothered me." Change your actions and mend the relationship.
- Forgiveness:Asking "Will you forgive me?" and/or "What can I do to help you feel better?"